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Do what you need to be safe

Posted by Provost on October 24, 2001 at 18:30:29:
In Reply to: roommate harassment posted by sandy on October 24, 2001 at 14:48:17:
You're in a difficult situation. Of course going to the police is one option. Unfortunetly the law is can be of little help in this matter, and in some cases, an abusive person will become even more so after being confronted by police.
You have to do what is best for your safety. Moving out would seem logical here. Have you talked to the LL to see if you can be released from the lease? Do you have somewhere else you could stay (friends house, relative, etc) temporarily while you search for a new apartment? If you're willing to look in the Bronx, Queens, etc. you will find studios you can rent yourself for $600 or less.
Don't feel you have to just put up with such a situation - you have more options than you may be aware of and the roommate must learn that his behavior is unacceptable.

: Is there any precedent or standard means of dealing with co-tenant to co-tenant harassment? my roommate (we're both oin the lease of a rent-stabilized apartment) has threatened to shut off utilities, threatened to sue me over utilities (even though i pay on time), told me i'm not allowed to use the phone, and has been talking about not paying his rent -- since i'd either have to cover the difference or be evicted along with him. he's also had friends over calling me a slut and leaving vulgar messages about me on kitchen blackboards.
: any suggestions? is any of this actionable, or just crappy stuff i'll have to put up with or leave?

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: You're in a difficult situation.  Of course going to the police is one option.  Unfortunetly the law is can be of little help in this matter, and in some cases, an abusive person will become even more so after being confronted by police. 

: You have to do what is best for your safety.   Moving out would seem logical here.  Have you talked to the LL to see if you can be released from the lease?  Do you have somewhere else you could stay (friends house, relative, etc) temporarily while you search for a new apartment?  If you're willing to look in the Bronx, Queens, etc. you will find studios you can rent yourself for $600 or less.  

: Don't feel you have to just put up with such a situation - you have more options than you may be aware of and the roommate must learn that his behavior is unacceptable. 

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: : Is there any precedent or standard means of dealing with co-tenant to co-tenant harassment? my roommate (we're both oin the lease of a rent-stabilized apartment) has threatened to shut off utilities, threatened to sue me over utilities (even though i pay on time), told me i'm not allowed to use the phone, and has been talking about not paying his rent -- since i'd either have to cover the difference or be evicted along with him. he's also had friends over calling me a slut and leaving vulgar messages about me on kitchen blackboards. 

: : any suggestions? is any of this actionable, or just crappy stuff i'll have to put up with or leave?


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